Help each other to Help yourself !

In this day & age where we fight our own blood to get hold of the better share of property & that humongous gold necklace Helping each other seems a whole new level of growing up...

Our country witnesses innumerable harassing incidents which only seem to multiply with time ! It’s the 21^st century & yet women have to think about how late in the evening ( yes evening ! not even night ) can they be out alone & don’t even get me started on what WE should be wearing so that we don’t “invite” trouble ! Road accidents are not a rarity, but we just drive past them ( most of us ) not bothering to find out if we can help.. Until we are in the spot !

Why are some men in our country just not afraid to take law in their hands ? The Judicial system takes years to convict & bails are given on a platter but the other major reason is WE - the common public are hesitant to offer a helping hand ! Eve-teasers roam “seena taan ke” cause they know nobody wants to mess with them. If we see anyone being troubled at public places, we don’t want to get into “unnecessary” trouble…how long will it take for us to realize that it’s not us who is in trouble but someone else & very soon the Goon population will outgrow us and we could be in the same sticky situation and no one would want to help us ?

The other day my friend narrated an incident of a pervert harassing her & her tiny 3 year old innocent girl & no one in the crowded spot in Pune stepped up to help & protect them ! I've experienced men leching & I am sure so do a lot of women every single day…! We whine, we crib, our blood boils…but then..what changes ?

How long are we going to blame those perverts for such incidents? Aren't we to be blamed equally for being mere spectators? 

Don’t we outnumber them enough to take a stand & HELP? You may be fine today but do not forget you or your near & dear ones could be the next, trouble doesn't come with an appointment.. don’t forget this is the society our kids are growing in to & will face the same damn things if you don’t try to change it today !

Let’s take this small step of not being an audience in such situations, if you are not strong enough we can always try & get help from other people around or dial the good old one zero zero… But do your bit to help…

Next time you pass an accident scene..stop..see if you can help…

Cause when you help each other you help yourself !

-Purva 

@purvs3

I am....

I am an Indian… & a proud one at that !

I am in love with freedom… of thoughts, expressions & choices

I am responsible… I follow my duties of being a daughter, sister, mother & a friend

I am positive… No problem is strong enough to crush me entirely

I am sincere… I never leave a job unfinished

I am well-mannered & courteous … I don’t jump queues, I don’t push people in crowds & I never forget to say thank-you !

I am qualified… One of the Indian parents dream – Engineer ( the other dream is doctor of course :/ )

I am… all that my parents taught me while growing up & have tried my best to be “accepted” by people

But…..

I also am crazy… I fangirl at 30 & the crazier scale of fangirling !

I also am a shopaholic… shoes,clothes,bags,watches…everything basically

I also am stupid & dumb ( at times ! )

I also am a Drama Queen… Life without Nautanki is so bleh !

I also am in love with my “Me Time”… I need time with myself…period! Indulging into my hobbies or something that takes me away from responsible thoughts !

I also am spontaneous… I decide impromptu to get into a different career field after 7 years !

…….it is important to keep yourself alive & upbeat by going the crazy way at the same time love it or hate it, you cannot ignore your roles & responsibilities !

So combine them both & make the best of both worlds !! :)

Bleed Blue...&...See Red !!

A little late & ya ya the IPL madness is all over the place but still...

India has multiple religions which coexist ( apparently ! ) yet one religion that binds us together is Cricket ! We have this sudden burst of patriotism when we watch our men in Blue !

Defending Champions & the very heavy #WeWontGiveItBack tag meant immense pressure on Dhoni & his boys ! They played extremely well, however "Gave it back" is known to us all, but whats extremely worrisome is the sudden change of attitude & showers of angry actions & backlash on all the social networking platforms by the same people who were proud to #BleedBlue !

People belonging to other nations ( the neighbors ) giving flak was very much expected ! I personally got some ridiculously irrelevant comments on what kind of Sidharth Malhotra fan I am just cause I spoke about cricket & supported my nation ! ( yes by a fellow Sidharth fan. )

Stone pelting, burning posters & effigies.. why? Because how dare we give it back??? Only if it was easy as running away with the cup & going underground !

Why are we so impatient with all this ? why cant we accept the situation, applaud the efforts AND move on ?

We are a very tolerant nation mind you ! we DON'T mind people dictating terms to us under the guise of moral policing, we DON'T mind riots every now & then, we go past a bomb blast as though it was as easy as a cracker burst ! 

So then why this hypocrisy?? 
Lets not be so callous with our attitude towards people who actually work hard for our National Pride !!

Can we say bye bye to double standards before the next World Cup ?? 

- Purva
@purvs3

New Age Media & Audience !

With the emerging times & technology, Media has seen a drastic transformation from print to online media forms. A new “News” forms almost every micro second & is published the very next second. From sensible news to sensationalizing News, Media has come a long long way!

While pondering over some latest issues in our country I realized these aren't really “Issues”, these are very minor things that happen but are given unnecessary weight age, coverage & importance. For some reason the “News” are no longer a problem we face as a country but are mere statements given by apparently “famous people”

Let me elaborate, with a lighter example first: Aamir Khan’s views on AIB roast was given a lot more importance than the actual AIB Roast video & the stupid FIR’s that followed. The questions changed from “What do you think of AIB Roast” to “What do you think of Aamir’s reaction to the Roast” ! Aamir Khan is a great actor & makes some really good films but does that mean his opinion on something was worth making even bigger News?

I mean seriously we are making news out of a person’s personal opinion & reaction? Are we that jobless or that demented?

Another extremely disturbing example is the RSS Mohan Bhagwat’s comment on Mother Teresa’s aim being conversion to Christianity, this time not just the media but people took on social networking sites & supported or spoke against the statement. Hashtags are created on twitter which keep trending all day, but the question is.. so what? What does that result into? Even if conversion was on Mother Teresa’s mind, how does it change the productivity & future of our Nation? How does it affect any one of us now ?

So basically we are just going around in circles wasting our time over who had to say what! By giving unnecessary people & their comments importance we are helping them achieve their hidden agenda of publicity & recognition & that’s all ! In this process people neglect & forget about graver problems that we face in the likes of corruption, education awareness, health & hygiene etc.

At the same time we very easily blame the Media & say Media unnecessarily hypes issues, but then they also feed us what we want to consume ! How many hits does a news reporting about Ranbir-Katrina’s engagement ( reported at least 100 different times, so when it actually happens there would be no “News” in it ! ) have versus an electricity issue a village is facing ? 

Absolutely no points for guessing !

It is our responsibility equally as to what matters to us in the long run & how we want to see our country progress.

Yes its good to know the way politicians think so that you know whom to vote in your next election, but beyond them insignificant statements & people opinions should not “stir” our nation !

It’s a human tendency to react instantly to things we hear, but its also important to get all your facts right before you react. For example we all went crazy over the ban of “India’s Daughter” but it’s important that facts about the permissions, authorities & the legalities are known to us & we do go through them before we start reacting ferociously.

Correct me if I am wrong, but all we do is react, are there absolutely any actions taken because we were hurt as a nation?

Are we bringing any change to the society & the way things function ?

With the passing time are we progressing or getting more regressive as a Nation ?

We don’t need debates & we don't need to encourage opinions

We do not need open letters, we as a nation “do not want to know” but want to see action.

Like... we want to see justice prevailing in shorter amount of time, we want the democratic rights the country has given us without terms & conditions & the things like these…basically solutions to problems.

Media & audience are both flawed in ways, how we work in our own respective roles responsibly & in a balanced fashion will change the dynamics for the better !

"Be the change you want to see" 

-Purva

@purvs3

Simple yet cool Birthday Boy !

Its that time of the year again ! Sidharth's Birthday is no less than a festival for us Sidians ! 
( I love it personally too as my Birthday celebrations get extended from Nov 30th to Jan 16th )

I felt crazy yet right to send a fun letter to Sid in  2013, Blogged in 2014 ... Here is my bit for 2015 :)
Its a heartfelt admiration for you right from the beginning and will continue & only grow over the years ! #LifeTimeGuarantee :D

Only 2 Years in Bollywood Industry and you've captured more than a Million hearts #1Million+SidiansOnTwitter

A Lot of media articles have spoken of your Strong Fan Base, there are people all around the globe who admire you & support you always ! 
There are reasons your fans look up to you ,We know our star epitomizes genuineness & sincerity and does not come with the added baggage of tantrums & unnecessary attitude !

Its your qualities that come across as a Star, as an Actor & as a Person...that inspire me, give me the much needed uplifting & most importantly takes me to a world I love being a part of..

100 % Dedication & commitment to your work,
Willing to undergo challenging transformations & take risks ,
Being humble, polite & co-operative ,
Speech full of Respect & Gratitude,
Witty Sense of Humour,
Being grounded despite the praises & crazy fan following,
...and the Dignified Silence

Even though you made bad look good in reel life.. you make being good look smashing hot in real ;) 
Good guy who enjoys being who is, from tweeting about your pet to the sarcastic fun replies;
Good guy who doesn't try to preach & lets his actions speak louder than words;
Good guy who has not shown any disrespect and hasn't ridiculed and belittled anyone;
Good guy who has the patience & confidence in his hard work;
Good guy who takes his own sweet Looooong Twitter breaks & enjoys his own space;
... good guy who doesn't have to define perfection but is a perfect example of "Work in Progress" & makes no bones about it !!

HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY SidM !! 
Ring in the 30th with aplomb..I recently entered the club, it aint as bad as they show in Friends :P

Birthdays are super special, they are YOUR days, the number of candles cannot take that away from you ;)



Always stay the way you are !
Love you immensely..Now & Forever ! 
#BigLove #TightHug


-Purva
@purvs3

2014 - A SIDilicious YEAR to Remember !

After a rather low key 2013, 2014 was a remarkable year for all Sidians & how !

We all LAUGHED & FELL for him, we were flabbergasted to see our good boy gone bad 

We fell in love more with certain Ice Cream & Coffee brands 

We heard him talk... a lot !! ( Thankyou Promotions, God Bless ! )

We saw three distinct & drastically different looks on him 

... and we rejoiced, celebrated & lived every milestone with Him ! 

#HTP trailer was lot of fun & left you wanting for more & 2014 began with a bang with the promotional activities for the movie ! Sid was so much fun and lived up to the title and made Parineeti laugh & laugh throughout !! He shook it like Shammi, went crazy over Punjabi wedding song & showed his funky Adaayein too ! 

The highlight however was the camaraderie the 2 shared in the interviews & cracked up !( so did we ;))

Then came Nikhil on screen !

His charming personality, his goofy demeanor, his sincerity and his trying so hard to please everyone act left the audience, critics , renowned directors, fellow Bollywood actors loving & appreciating his performance ! 

He was seeking recognition as an Actor..well... :)

One of the awesome moments for me was Mijwan Fashion Show, it was a moment of pride to see Sid on the same platform as Amitabh Bachchan, Akshay Kumar, Farhan Akhtar & Ranbir Kapoor.

It was extremely delightful to see his wish of sharing space with Mr.Bachchan come true ! <3

This year also marked his first solo performance in States which was witnessed by Hollywood big names too ! 

Fans went gaga when Sid's close up was shown and this became the talk of the show ! More power to Sidharth & to all his global fans !!

 EkVillain teaser came, we saw & it conquered ! It took over the internet by storm and the buzz, the story, the unusual casting & the soulful melodies guranteed a hit for sure ! But it wasn't just a hit, the historical opening day figures & entry into the exclusive "100 crore club"  gave it a blockbuster status & Sidians are still beaming in pride ! :D

Receiving appreciating calls from superstars & then them coming over & gifting you something special for your performance - seems like a fairy tale..but this happened & we all could not stop gushing over it !

The endorsements & events throughout the year, added to the Sidilicious quotient & we devoured it with great joy :)

The sporting display during "Egg Villain" truly won our hearts all over again ! They are the Most lucky eggs ever I tell you :P

Its great to see Sid in more Bollywood parties now & hopefully he now feels he is part of it !

The most fine ending to this yummilicous Sidilicous year was The Big Star Entertaining actor award for Hasee toh Phasee ! We heart it ! 

We loved Nikhil & anyone would fall for him !

The feather in the hat was the fact that not just Sidians, the award shows also believed that Sidharth was the "Entertainer of the year" ! We couldn't agree more :)

Here's to 2015 ! It will only get BIGGER & BETTER !!! :)

-Purva

@purvs3

I-M-Moral Police !

How did you feel when a glass of milk was forced upon you as a child ? Even though it was good for you, you felt its your choice and your right to eat and drink what you want !
So Imagine how a Female Celebrity felt when she was slapped on the stage for wearing clothes of HER CHOICE ?

As a female a host of people DECIDE things for us, going to girls school, coming back home on time, marrying the right guy, what clothes to wear and we are answerable for every breath we take ! I have been fortunate enough to make my own choices as an Adult, but how many women in our country have that privilege? I am sure a very meager percentage !

We stay in a Democratic country where we have the liberty to exercise our rights. But then there is this section of "saintly" people who think they are God's gift to mankind and think they can DECIDE for others AND to top it ENFORCE those decisions especially on women !

They have an extremely weird, twisted & most importantly extremely dangerous ways of thinking & executing, According to them women shouldn't wear short dresses..  why? Because it sends out a signal that we are WILLING to get Raped, so either they end up being raped or being Slapped or molested in public places  to teach them how to dress ! And no no...its not the perverted man who is responsible for it ! They are entitled to do what they wish because clearly they KNOW what is RIGHT for a woman they DON'T KNOW !

It only leaves questions in my mind which I hope get answered somewhere in my Life Time :

Gauhar Khan a celebrity being slapped on stage midst security & at her comfortable place of work, what signal does it send out ?

Why are men in our country not afraid to take the law in their hands?

When will Indian Parents stop worrying about their daughters being out on their own ?

When will we start practicing "Live & Let Live" ?

How much free time do these so called "Moral Policing" men have ? And why don't they utilize it for something productive ?

When we have much graver problems as a Society & Community why don't the saints concentrate on fixing them ?

Why is it anybody's business what an individual does on his individual level ?

Will the moral police help us distinguish which men have ulterior motives? Thats where we could use their help since they are so generous to help better our society !

Are people so dumb to get influenced so easily and start behaving like psycho's ? Or are they just brilliant Actors ?

And most importantly.. when will they realise that them proclaiming I-M-Moral is actually completely IMMoral display of behaviour !

Hopefully we all humans too evolve with time, just like technology !

P.S It was extremely sick to see some people ridiculing & laughing on such incidents, if you make fun of it, in a way you promote it !

-Purva
@purvs3